Life is relation – that´s why we ascribe Interaction incredible value.
Relation is important inasmuch as we always search to be completed by
something…or someone outside us.
It is normal, that´s what we have been taught: To search for meaning
in relation with things and people outside us. To search for approval.
To define ourselves and find fulfillment through others.
But what happens if the other fails to have a real and genuine relation to himself?
How can a person living in falsehood and illusion see and approve of you?
What can a person living in delusion do other than letting both himself
and you down?…
Not having a genuine relation to themselves, people indulge in hypocrisy and lying,
in order to hide their shame and guilt.
They live in constant distance to everything, using all resources in this hopeless specific undertaking to conceal their shame and guilt. No wonder they are so stressed.
Yes, most people are like shards. How can a shard be ment by another shard?
How do you expect to see the Real You whilst you look through a
broken window?…
Looking outside for meaningful relation is looking into the Mirror of Fear.
That being said, what about if
LIFE MEANS RIGHT RELATION TO YOURSELF FIRST?
What does this “right relation to yourself” entail?
It presupposes to have confronted and “done away” with Fear within you, with false expectation. To have clearly understood that outward relation never compensates your insecurity, your sense of incompleteness, your apartness. In fact, the most difficult thing to get is that as long as there is fear of yourself, no real relation can be built up. Trying to escape fear enhances fear. Escaping fear breeds lying and hypocrisy.
To see beyond the illusion of fleeing yourself in outward relation
requires great courage. Great responsibility.
To stop searching yourself in the other, is to do away with sorrow, regret and unfulfillment.
Then and only then True Relation and Meaningful Interaction is possible.
